Have you clearly identified your family values?
Until you do, you are likely to use the wrong measurement for gauging how you’re doing as mom, and how well your kids are growing toward a meaningful life.
What is your measuring stick for these things?
Too often COMPARISON or PERFECTION sneaks in as mom's measuring stick for Mom Success.
An INTENTIONAL mom TAKES THE TIME TO DETERMINE HER TOP VALUES and then those VALUES SHAPE her decisions, actions, words, goals, schedule, and perspective.
Let’s talk about it today on episode 55 of the Practically Speaking MOM: Intentional Mom, Strong Family Podcast!
Click here to listen to Episode 55: Goodbye COMPARISON & PERFECTION, there's a BETTER WAY to MEASURE MOM SUCCESS!
It’s not wrong to evaluate how you're doing in motherhood. In fact, I find it beneficial IF I evaluate how I'm doing based on a pre-determined CLEAR target of what I'm aiming for in motherhood.
📌Stop COMPARING yourself to other moms and your kids to other kids.
📌Stop aiming for PERFECTION and holding off on happiness until you've achieved perfection.
📌Identify Your Family Values - I share mine in this episode #55
📌Determine HOW your Family Values are going to be incorporated into your life
- what words you use in correcting & guiding your kids' behavior
- in setting a VISION for who your family is becoming
- in scheduling activities for BONDING around these family values
- remembering your values in every DECISION
- evaluating your GOALS to see how they align with your values
-make time in your family SCHEDULE for those values ( for example, if you have a value of being a family who loves God, do you make time in your schedule to teach the kids how to study the Bible, worship together, memorize scripture... OR if you have a value of close family relationships, do you teach the children to repair and restore relationship when there's been conflict? Do you teach them healthy ways to conflict? Do you teach them that you're a TEAM?)
Parenting without having CLEARLY ESTABLISHED VALUES is like shooting arrows while blindfolded- you're not going to reach the target AND someone is likely to get hurt.
Taking off the blindfold allows your eyes to be fixed on the target.